was reading xiaxue's blog and i think what she says is quite spot on, regarding christmas and festive occasions in general. it's like, so i quote, "you are EXPECTED to have fun, (and) EXPECTED to not be lonely."
and if you don't already have a "a stable group of people you can hang out with every year on lonesome holidays", what are we, especially the singles, to do? well, actually, even if you do have a stable group of friends to hang out with, who's to say that some of them won't "have their other halves to spend x'mas with, and abandon their group?"
it's like everybody's expected to fill their calender with a overflowing list of activities to do on festive occasions and if you don't, people will treat you like you're so sad or something. and the conflicting about me is that i like to organise stuff but at the same time i don't like to.
i guess i'm more of the kind of person to gather everybody, like okay, we're all free on this date and time; then push the planning of venue to meet and what to do to someone else. haha.
anyway, i think a kill-two-bird-with-one-stone solution is to get my friend to bring her other half along. so there'll need to be some planning such that his own group of friends' gathering won't clash with ours, but that won't have to involve me anyway :D
and it really helps when he drives too.
had christmas dinner at the village, which used to be marche, with the girls (:
orchard was too bloody crowded, so we drove down to clarke quay. (see what i said about friend's boyfriends who drive? heh)
this damn cool band was playing outside the clinic, which we couldn't sit in unless we opened three bottles; and none of us were exactly intending to get drunk on christmas eve (well except graceyu who was going down st james).
so we headed to tapas instead, which is this really cosy and lovely place and they make pretty mean toast. just don't get their lychee martini, geannie and i ordered one each and immediately regretted.
clock struck twelve at tapas; it was wishes of merry christmas over tapas' candlelight, and over sms to friends celebrating elsewhere.
i think it's gonna be really hard, unless you're really individualistic and not give a damn as to what others think; to not conform to celebrations and crowds during festive seasons.
like, it's new year's eve or it's christmas, and i need to be out there with the crowds doing something, anything; just to feel like i belong.
i think it takes a great deal of comfort and self-confidence or whatever, to actually be able to spend a quiet christmas or whatever occasion it is, at home; and not feel sorry for yourself.
aiya blame all the hype and commercialised shit la, huh. well, for me for now, i don't think i've reached that level of comfort or confidence yet; so it'll be more crowds and celebrations for me come this new year's eve with the girls again :D
i also think it would be pretty cool if say, we're all attached and our boyfriends join us for our gatherings and take turns to like, chauffeur us around or something. hahaha.
